Self Love; It’s a Viiibe
Hello babes! 😘 It’s Trisha, and I am here to say…
Happy New Year, and we hope your year is off to a great start! This year, the vibe with Bare Wax Bar is going to hit different. Get ready to BARE IT ALL, because 2023 is all about self love and body empowerment.❤️
We want you to start feeling confident and sexy in your own skin; we are very excited to now be able to offer our clients body-safe sexual wellness products. We realize this may not be for everyone, and that’s a-ok! However, I want to talk about a topic that is a bit taboo.
The Bottom Line: Let’s Eliminate The Shame Around Self Pleasure.
Feeling shame and stigma around self pleasuring activities is very common, especially for women! Female masturbation is often misconceived in the media which leads to many women questioning whether or not their desires are “normal” - they are.
Maybe in the past you’ve been told that self pleasure is bad, shameful or needs to be avoided.
So, let’s unpack this. If your thoughts are negative, I want you to try and challenge your mindset. Let’s reframe your way of thinking and look at masturbation as a form of self love and care.
How can we do this?
Think of masturbation as a form of self exploration.
Your body is your permanent home, my love! It’s normal to explore the ins and outs of your space, in whatever form you need.
Identify your sources of shame.
Cultural influences, beliefs and the opinions of others all may be leading you to feel shame around self pleasure. Questioning the root of the problem is the first step to remove it from your mind. Once you identify the sources for your shame, you can make the decision to keep believing this negative talk or to simply release it. How freeing is that?! 😌
Get more comfortable with loving your body.
I want you to practice making a list of things that you love about your body. Start with just 3 things and then try to work yourself all the way up to 10. These can be traits about your body that make you feel empowered and BAD ASS!! Or maybe, you’ll choose your unique physical attributes like freckles or scars. Whatever it is, allow yourself to embrace your body and gain confidence in your own skin.
Discover what you’re comfortable with.
There are several methods of masturbation *wink emoji* So, find the one that works for you! Maybe you like to use a toy like our Vibe Vibrator. Or maybe, you like the privacy and safety of exploring yourself in the shower. Whatever your preference is, get to know them so that you can maximize your pleasure while shutting down that pesky negative self-talk!
Understand the benefits.
Masturbation can actually be quite good for your health, both mentally and physically. It lowers stress, helps with sleep, improves mood, relieves muscle stress and strengthens your self-esteem and body-image. It’s also the safest sex out there with no risks of sexually transmitted disease or pregnancy.
Re-educate yourself.
Let’s take a trip back to Sex Education 101. Maybe your negative feelings surrounding masturbation stems from misinformation. You control the information you consume. Let’s start reading sex positive books, blogs or even listening to podcasts. Knowledge is power, babes.😘
Show yourself compassion.
I understand that overcoming sexual shame is no easy task. It’s difficult to entirely rewire your brain, especially if you’ve been thinking this way for your whole life. When you find yourself feeling shame for your sexual desires or fantasies, show yourself grace. Treat yourself like you would treat a dear friend. Reassure and encourage yourself!
To start your Sexual Self Exploration Journey, you can view our Wellness Products HERE. We chose to carry the brand Maude (Modern Intimacy), because of their mission to make intimacy better for everyone. Maude is built on quality, simplicity and inclusivity. Their Vibrators are body-safe, phthalate-free, latex-free and platinum grade silicone. Not to mention, Vibe is one of our favourites 😏 They are compatible with our Shine lubricant which is 100% natural, made in the USA, free of parabens and organic.
